Laa love addicts anonymous 40 questions to help you determine if you are a love addict i f you can answer yes to more than a few of the following questions, you are probably a love addict. First, i provide an introduction to the concept and information on a literature search i conducted. There is also a complete list which must be requested via email with over 70 meetings. First 7 days of questions what is sex and love addiction.
The 40 questions for self diagnosis are also posted on the s. Download it once and read it on your kindle device, pc, phones or tablets. Slaa how originated in australia around 1996, when a group of authors from slaa changed the wording from compulsive eating and food, to the words used in slaa for sex and love addiction and thereby created from oa a similar how approach and documents for slaa the authors felt that slaa needed a structured and disciplined approach to help. Slaagdvi faq sex and love addicts anonymous greater. Other s programs focus on different aspects, and may also have different requirements and guidelines for participation. Ausp016 philadelphia co slaa slaa stories saturday.
There is an online map and downloadable pdf list of over 30 meetings. Do you identify as a sex addict, a love addict, or both. We were free of much guilt for our misdeeds, from the shame of having fallen short of our inner values. Love addiction is in many ways the absolute opposite of healthy love. We have found if we changed our point of reference from sex or love to another type of relationship, we would find this inventory very useful.
Please call the slaa number, 9784350350, and you will be directed to a confidential email address where you can obtain further information about this special meeting. Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and or emotionally attached to people without knowing them. This subreddit exists soley for the discussion of topics directly related to recovery in the slaa program and fellowship and is not affiliated with the corporation knows as fellowship wide services in any way. On this page please note online and telephone meetings below in addition to meetings near you. We have begun to do the work of recovery and change in sex and love addicts anonymous. Love addiction may or may not include a romantic high or sexual addiction. These are 40 questions many of us have asked ourselves in order to determine if we may qualify as a sex and or love addict. Sex and love addicts anonymous is a twelve step, twelve tradition oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by alcoholics anonymous. Alcoholics anonymous especially chapters 57 and aas twelve steps and twelve traditions, substituting the words sex and love addiction and our addiction for alcoholism and alcohol. Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with andor emotionally attached to people without knowing them. Go back to these questions and include them in your inventory. Apr 18, 2016 read step 1 from the slaa handbook pp. To counter the destructive consequences of sex and love addiction we draw on four major resources.
Remember that love addiction comes in many forms, so even if you dont answer yes to all of the questions you may still be a love addict. Anorexia focus meetings deal with sexual anorexia as defined by slaa literature. We recover from sex andor love addiction or avoidanceanorexia by sharing. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading sex and love addicts anonymous. Remember that love addiction comes in man y forms, so even if you dont answer yes to all of the questions you may still be a love addict. Instead of being a straightforward self help manual using the 12 steps it reads more like a feverish personal journal with way too much. If you can answer yes to more than a few of the following questions, you are probably a love addict. The characteristics of sex and love addiction 12 recommended guidelines for. Sex and love addicts anonymous greater delaware valley.
Sex and love addicts anonymous slaa is a twelve step, twelve traditionoriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by alcoholics anonymous. Beginners meetings are supported by seasoned members of s. The 8 core documentswhich can be found under the group and member resources tabprovide a foundation for the s. And many slaa meetings discourage identifying any acting out areas. Most meetings on the full list, show a contact person, a fellow member who attends meetings. You are welcome to attend beginners meetings and find out. Characteristics of sex and love addiction having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with andor emotionally attached to people without knowing them.
Read the 12 characteristics of sex and love addiction. I still love this book and even if you think you dont need to read it you do. Sometimes love feels good and sometimes it feels bad. Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and others, growing more isolated and alienated from friends and loved ones, ourselves, and god. Now we were truly feeling some sense of deep release from the past. Eight core slaa documents and pamphlets san francisco east. Go through the whole list first marking the questions that cause you to have a strong reaction, good or bad. The only other change i think should be changed in this book is it does name some areas of acting out. Tampa bay sex and love addicts anonymous the tampa bay slaa.
The basic text for the augustine fellowship, sex and love addicts anonymous kindle edition by fellowship, the augustine. Tampa bay sex and love addicts anonymous the tampa bay. Slaa is open to anyone who knows or thinks they have a problem with sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic obsessions and or attachments, emotional dependency, and or sexual, social and emotional anorexia. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy. Instead of being a straightforward self help manual using the 12 steps it reads more like a feverish personal journal with way too much personal detail about the authors life and struggles. A 12 step program to recover from sex, love, relationship and romance addictions. Preamble pdf characteristics of sex and love addiction pdf. We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity andor the need to rescue or be rescued. Read the books recommended in the slaa basic text on pg. Love addiction, however, is a compulsive, chronic craving and or pursuit of romantic love in an effort to get our sense of security and worth from another person. Slaa outline for using the sponsors guide share your experience, strength and hope. Closed meetings are open only to those having a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.
Beginners meetings are open to anyone who knows or who thinks they might have a problem with sex and love addiction. Sex and love addiction is definitely real and this book is a sincere effort to help others. This means that only people who consider themselves to be members of. In many instances the values we had thought were ours had turned. On this page please note online and telephone meetings below in addition to meetings near you online meetings. If someone is grappling with a problem that is not one of sex and love addiction, we are not the ones to. The slaa promises of recovery sex and love addicts. Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and others, growing more isolated. Preamble pdf characteristics of sex and love addiction pdf 40 questions for selfdiagnosis pdf signs of recovery pdf recommended guidelines for dealing with the media pdf.
We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addictionthat our. Apr 30, 2020 this is a closed meeting for professionals who help and counsel sex and love addicts. Slaa includes love addiction romantic obsession, relationships, and sexual anorexia. Define your bottom line behavior those activities from which we must refrain in order to attain physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wholeness.
Please feel free to reproduce this document for distribution. In 2004, the conference anorexia committee sent a questionnaire to members of s. Sex and love addicts anonymous slaa is a 12step fellowship for recovery from sex and or love addiction romantic obsession. Meetings sex and love addicts anonymous portland area. Referring to examples from your life, discuss how you have acted out in these areas in the past. Slaa is open to anyone who knows or thinks they have a problem with sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic obsessions andor attachments, emotional dependency, andor sexual, social and emotional anorexia.
We endeavour to stop a pattern of sex and love anorexia and we work the twelve steps of s. This means that only people who consider themselves to be members of s. This can include therapists, educators, ministers, or anyone in a helping profession. There are more than one thousand sex and love addicts anonymous slaa groups in the united states, but love and sex addition is relatively new in the world of psychology and selfhelp. Greater cincinnati ohio and northern kentucky augustine fellowship of sex and love addicts anonymous. Love addiction, however, is a compulsive, chronic craving andor pursuit of romantic love in an effort to get our sense of security and worth from another person.
We seek to develop a daily relationship with a higher power, knowing that we are not alone in our efforts to heal ourselves from our addiction. Even though we fear intimacy and commitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts. Due to the covid19 pandemic, we are in the process of setting up online meetings. Love addicts are often really terrified of intimacy and choose partners who are either unavailable or love avoidant. Tools of recovery sex and love addicts anonymous of arkansas. Sex and love addiction the following list is a thought starter to help identify your habits of thoughts and feelings in the area of sex and love addiction. Greater cincinnati ohio and northern kentucky augustine fellowship of sex and love addicts anonymous cincinnati ohio and northern kentucky augustine fellowship of sex and love. They are not intended to provide a surefire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. The english versions of the 8 core documents in order of priority for translation and. Open meetings are open to all genders who want to find out more about recovery from sex and love addiction men only and women only meetings are closed to their specific genders but are open to those who want to find out more about recovery anorexia focus meetings deal with sexual anorexia as defined by slaa literature. Eight core slaa documents and pamphlets san francisco. Love addicts anonymous fourth step inventory guide 2008 love addicts anonymous draft t he point of the 4th step inventory is to take a hard look at yourself and decide what you want to keep and what you want to get rid of. Sex and love addicts anonymous slaa is a 12step fellowship for recovery from sex andor love addiction romantic obsession. This is a closed meeting for professionals who help and counsel sex and love addicts.
Below are links to pdfs of the 7 core documents frequently used in slaa. Slaa tools of recovery sex and love addicts anonymous. Sex and love addicts anonymous fellowshipwide services. Love addiction is very prevalent and undiagnosed in our society. We have found, no matter how different or alone we feel, that reaching out to others to give help and to ask for it helps us to recover from our anorexia. How to break the pattern of love addiction psychology today. If someone is grappling with a problem that is not one of sex and love addiction, we are not the ones to tell him or her how to solve these problems.
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